You Are Not Alone... Do Your Work

It may seem like you are all alone.  In a sense you are...we all are.  But in the grander scheme of things we are all alone here on earth together. Together.  So while you may feel alone, isolated, wounded and maybe mad as hell.  Those emotions aren't forever.  Nope, I am not trying to sell you the sunny side of the street.  We all have to cross over in our own time.

I am a big believer in realizing that when you are ready to stop suffering you will.  Divorce is an E.N.D.  an ENTIRELY NEW DIRECTION.  You can choose to see that way or you can keep moving in the woe-is-me-land.  I have spent a great deal of time in the woe-is-me-land and I didn't enjoy it.  But there is something to be said for wallowing in pain, it serves us somehow.  It allows people to hover and feel sorry for us, and we need to be comforted.  But the sorry-for-your-trouble comfort is not the comfort we really desire.  It is hard to ask for the comfort we really need when the pain is so great.

There is no magic potion.  Just your own will and determined spirit to rise again that will see you through.  There will be days the way forward will be foggy, murky and downright scary.  But I know you were made for this time.  You can indeed move on. PUSH! PUSH! PUSH!

So take the time to heal.  Go easy and be kind to yourself.  If you need to show a brave front to family and friends ask yourself why? Allow the vulnerable you to shine on through.  As Iyanla Vanzant is fond of saying "Do your work"