Thursday, November 21, 2013
In this glorious season of thanksgiving, we must remember that we can continue to dream of an amazing life.
What do you want?
Do you remember what your dreams were?
Divorce is but another transition... bringing you closer to your dreams.
See it that way. Act that way. Behave your way into your dream life.
You've lost nothing. NOTHING!
Don't get caught up trying to make a life you don't want fit.
Imagine the life of your dreams and go chase that!
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
I talk to people all the time about their divorce stories. There is nothing new under the sun. I am never totally surprised at the way people treat each other... especially the ones they have sworn dying love to.
I suspect that what people know how to spot shifts and changes and they don't know how to articulate changes. So the only recourse is to behave badly and then divorce ensues.
But imagine if we knew what we wanted before reigning terror on someone else? Our real wars are always internal... deep within.
We cannot have what we want until we are clear of what it is we want....
There is a price for all our desires.
A price for all our desires!
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Keep the faith! And buy a happy umbrella!
It won't rain forever. You have to decide when you want the sun to shine. You bring the sun, just as you bring the rain. Oh the rain is needed... the tears are healing and must be shed. Perhaps the Ex is giving you more drama than you think you can bear. You can. All that pouring rain is just a metaphor for your currrent state of affairs. Let it all wash away. You are not losing anything at all. You are gaining peace defined by your brilliant mind.
Perhaps this divorce is not what you imagined for yourself. I took those vows too, for better or worse, in sickness and in health til death do us part... yeah, I believed it too and still do. At the moment that's not my reality. I am divorced. You are getting divorced. Show up for your life rain or shine.
SHOW UP FOR YOUR LIFE RAIN OR SHINE!
Get a funky umbrella and keep it moving. You'll stop the rain when you're ready. You want the sun to shine again and you won't remember fully what all the sadness was about anyway.
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
I may have posted this one before and I am posting it again. Too often when I sit with someone who is getting a divorce, they just believe this is the end of their life. They can't see how they will move on. There is no bright future. I always invite them to take another look at those long held dreams that were packed away when they got married and started raising a family. Or they got married and there was no time to nurture and grow a particular long held dream. I invite them to allow those dreams to rise to the surface of their heart and mind. Allow the dream to move them. Doing that alone takes you out of your present drama and allows you opportunity to focus on something other than the drama and pain of divorce. It is not about escaping. It is learning to be deliberate and intentional about your own life and those dreams you held close.
Monday, October 7, 2013
Give Peace a try. Be still and trust the beat of your own heart. Imagine your life as you always dreamed and move in that direction.
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
Sophisticated. Very Grown up. One to try.
Posted by Babz Rawls Ivy at 8:54 AM
Sunday, September 29, 2013
OK, you get one shot to listen to this.... if your heart is broken this is the song to go to. Pour a stiff one... whatever you got in the house and sit and listen once maybe twice. Then move on.
Billie can take your broken heart and break it more! So go easy. I'll be back to post something else. Remember, listen to this once or twice and let it go.
Posted by Babz Rawls Ivy at 5:08 PM